So yesterday I was chillin’, minding my own business, scrolling through my Google Alerts when I came across this Seventeen magazine article People Are Upset Over This “Gossip Girl” Star’s Post About Black Women’s Hair. The article was all about an Instagram pic posted by Jessica Szohr, who played Vanessa Abrams on Gossip Girl. Basically in a nutshell, some people are really upset at the messaging and implications of her pic.  If you haven’t seen the pic, I posted it below.  So let me ask you, do you feel that black women still wear weaves to conform to a white standard of beauty or have we moved on?

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As a black woman who has proudly worn her hair naturally for the past 20 years and has worn plenty of extensions and weaves, I totally disagree with the message portrayed in Jessica’s pic.  I mean first of all, the pic is weird.  Why are they posing in front of the sign in the first place? Was this meant to be an inside joke? Why is there a white man in the picture at all LOL? Does Jessica even remember that she has black blood running through her veins AND has worn extensions herself at some point? I mean the questions can go on and on.


#weavefree #exceptwhenimweaving

A photo posted by Jessica Szohr (@itsmejessicaszohr) on

I do agree that in many ways black women have had to conform to a white standard of beauty.  That’s an age-old issue and it’s something that we still fight to this day.  But I won’t go into that über long discussion about beauty standards. Unfortunately, there are still many in Corporate America and “everybody else” America, that just don’t get it when we come in to work rocking our natural hair or understand that we can sometimes be hair chameleons by swapping our naturals for a protective weave or braids with the quickness.  I mean they’re still debating over whether or not it’s appropriate to ask a black woman if they can touch her hair (and no, it’s still not appropriate to ask imo).

I rock weaves and braids for fun, as a change-up or simply as a way to protect my tresses from the elements and too much manipulation from styling.  It’s a way to give myself and my hair a bit of a break. I don’t ask for permission when I want a change and I don’t apologize for my decision to wear weaves, extensions, wigs or heat styled straight hair. What I do with my hair is my business.  Just because I slap on a weave doesn’t mean that I’m not proud of my natural hair underneath or that I’m not proud of who I am. It’s simply just another beauty option.

A Few Of My Weaves & Extensions

I see so many women of color rocking their natural tresses proudly everyday. More and more of us are embracing our natural textures AND still opting to heat style, wear weaves and rock braids. So what? Why is there still this issue with how we wear our hair? Of all the things to be concerned about on this earth, we’re still talking about a tired and played out debate…in 2015.  Somebody somewhere is suffering and dummies like the person who made that wack background sign, are still debating how Becky does her hair.  Here comes petty —> Speaking of Becky…Did ya’ll see that horrible black roots weave Becky, I mean Gabourney was wearing on Empire? IJS 

The climate has changed in the black community. Weaves did at some point, used to be considered a way to conform to a corporate standard, a white standard or a western standard of beauty, but I think that ship has sailed.  Weaves have not only evolved in textures, colors and lengths, but they have become a beauty standard in the entertainment industry worldwide and are more accessible to women of all economic backgrounds.  I see weaves  and extensions just as I see artificial nails and eyelashes. It’s just an enhancement and a personal beauty choice. How dare anyone tell me how I should wear my hair when I leave my house.

So whether or not Jessica Szohr meant for her pic to stir up this much controversy or not, it’s evident that this is something that’s still a touchy subject with women of color.  So white people, black people, all people, let’s just leave it alone and mind our own business and our own follicles please.  Let’s not joke about things that are not funny. Personally I think people should take an extra minute and think about how that pic they want to post is gonna impact others, before they do it.  But hey that’s just me. Next time maybe post a pic of yourself standing in front of a burger, people like burgers.

Until we meet again stars,



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Do Black Women Still Wear Weaves To Conform?
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Do Black Women Still Wear Weaves To Conform?
The Jessica Szohr Instagram controversy has us asking, Do Black Women Still Wear Weaves To Conform to a white standard of beauty?

9 Responses

  1. Ebony

    I’m all for the #weavesmustfall vibe but that’s me personally. I don’t like the idea of wearing a hair texture that is not mine. But I do have knee long dreads so a weave would never fit me.

  2. Fure T Go

    For variety, to frame a face, or to be creative and artistic like when people have blue hair and mohawks: then weaves are attractive/interesting. For ill-fitting, over-stuffed nervous-nellie heads who are desperate to conform, keep up with the Atlanta Housewives or deny who they are, then weaves are a problem.

    Reminds me of the issue with the poor girl whose teacher told her to write a poem about her weave: either the teacher wanted her to create a Elizabeth Acevedo spoken word poem or the weave did nothing to help the student blend in with her mostly white classmates. Either way, the teacher and the school apologized within a day, and then the story went viral.

    • Candice S.

      You’re right, there is a double standard. My stance is that it’s not our business to guess or assume to know why someone else chooses to wear their hair a certain way or to judge their decision either way. I think people spend way too much time minding other people’s business than focusing on their own. It’s ok to have personal opinions about what’s cute or not cute, what we like or don’t like but when it interfere’s with someone else’s choice then that’s not ok.

  3. Victoria

    Hmm, this is an interesting post. I haven’t wore a weave in about six months because honestly the hair irritates my scalp, even the highest quality hair. However, who is to tell someone how they can wear their hair. In addition, why is it always depicted as black women are the only one wearing weaves? White women wear weaves too and fusions. This world is just too judgmental. If everyone minded their own business and stopped trying to dictate others’ lives the world would be a much peaceful place.

    • Candice S.

      Victoria I agree with you wholeheartedly. We have to stop policing other people’s lives. Wow, I know some women that can’t wear them for the same reasons you stated or even some that are allergic.

  4. Candice S.

    So true Emerald. It’s like I really only see debate and controversy about this coming from our own. It seems like other cultures have learned to accept that their people like to wear weaves and wigs. Seems like with them it’s ok, or maybe not, but at least we don’t see debates about it in public.

  5. Emerald

    I wear weaves because it gives me a new look and I love changing my hair. Natural hair is wonderful and I encourage women to embrace their natural tresses. However, who are we to tell anyone how to wear their own hair? I don’t see anyone policing other cultures on how to wear their hair.


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