I’m used to being under a lot of stress as a mom. But the amount of stress I feel each week from being a stay at home mom + full-time business owner, can be pretty debilitating. Self care is no longer an option, it’s a must. 

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Sometimes We Forget About Self Care

This week when my hubby came home off his shift, I was standing at the stove cooking dinner.  It was almost 7:30 p.m. (because dinner runs late in our house most nights) and I had a million things going on in my head.  I don’t even remember hearing him come in, I was so preoccupied with what I had to do next.  

So many thoughts were running through my head. I still gotta give my baby a bath. Did I dump her potty?  Aww crap!, I forgot to mail my student loan forbearance request today, again. Gotta finish designing more products for my store. I still have 3 loads of clothes that need folding. I wish my big brother was here with me. It’s gonna take a few days to finish designing my site. Tomorrow I need to hang her curtains & bed canopy. I wish my little brother would call me. Did this boy finish his homework? I need to publish at least 2 blog posts this week. I’m too tired to make a veggie with this dish. My feet hurt.  I need a vacation. I only slept 5 hours last night. I’m starting to get a headache. 

It’s like he could see the fog of stress surrounding me as he approached me for his daily hug and kiss.  I was so done.

I started telling him about how exhausted I was and what’s been bothering me lately.  

Then he asked me, “What can I do to help? You know I have the kids if you need some time to yourself.” 

So I started explaining that I need to get away.  I told him that I’m so tired and would really like to just go check myself into a hotel room for the weekend.  That’s when he offered to put aside a budget for my self-care. He said, “I don’t care what you do with it, just go take care of yourself. Get a massage. Get your feet done.”

So that’s what I did.  I’ve never had a full body massage done by anyone other than my spouse. So I started researching about what to expect and reading customer reviews for local day spas.  I even, hopped on Groupon to see what kinds of deals I could find.  You know I’m not one for paying full price if I don’t have too lol. 

I settled on a nice Day Spa and called to set up a 1 hour massage and 1 hour of reflexology.  Then, I split up the appointments, so I could get my relaxation on 2 Saturdays in a row, rather than 1. 

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This Is Why Self Care Is Important

Each week I’m operating as a household manager, childcare provider/potty trainer, nurse, housekeeper and tutor.  Then add-on my roles as web/graphics designer, content creator, social media manager and my new hat as the owner/operator of an online boutique. It’s exhausting ya’ll.

It is imperative that all of us stay at home parents, regardless of the amount of hats we wear, take care of ourselves. We have to pay close attention to our mental, physical and spiritual health in order to be whole for the people we love. The days of running on fumes have to become a thing of the past.

Here are a few self-care tips to help us stay healthy and sane, as stay at home moms. 

Self Care Tips For Stressed Out Stay At Home Moms

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Take Care Of Your Appearance

Even if it seems like there aren’t enough hours in the day to get dolled up. At the very least, take care of your general appearance.  That way, you’re ready for whatever they day may bring.  A quick run to the store.  Maybe a knock on the door from a neighbor or UPS guy. Trips to the bus stop or running errands.  You’ll be always ready and you’ll feel better knowing you look presentable. 

  • Make sure your hair is neat.  This can mean a quick and simple ponytail, an easily manageable hair cut, a wig or rocking a nice head wrap. 

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  • Keep your lips exfoliated and moisturized
  • Don’t forget to apply a good lotion daily.  Sometimes being indoors for extended periods, under central heat or air, is drying to our bodies. 
  • If you don’t feel like ironing your clothes, wet & wring out a wash cloth. Toss it in the dryer along with your outfit and let the steam do the job for you.

Don’t Let Your Personal Hygiene Slip

I’m in a lot of mom groups, so I hear moms complain about this a lot. I don’t care how busy or tired you get. There is nothing healthy, sexy or cute about not washing your body.  If your kids prevent you from getting the “me” time you need in the bathroom, then you need to set some strict limits on when they can and can’t enter. If you’re still struggling with setting limits so you can get the time you need, here are some practical things you can do.

  • Take showers or baths at night after they go to bed, or early before they wake up
  • Take shorter showers (it’s better than none at all)
  • Shower during nap times

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Take A Mental Health Break

It’s ok to block all news channels, apps and social media sites for a while to give our brains and spirits a break. There is so much negativity, hate, complaining or everyday distractions going on in the digital world.  Too much consumption can take a toll on your mental health.

  • Set limits on your screen time
  • Leave any unnecessary social media groups
  • Block trolls or stop following people whom you feel don’t add anything positive to your life or feeds.
  • Scroll past heated debates or controversial posts if you don’t have the capacity to deal with the follow-up.  Most social debates are just not worth it in the end.

Schedule Health Appointments

If it’s been awhile since you’ve visited your dentist, ob gyn or primary care provider, take some time out of your week and schedule all of your appointments.

Get Away From The House & Kids

Sometimes this is easier said than done but here are a few ideas to get in a few breaks when needed

  • Take a walk
  • Go to the park, lay out with blanket and chill
  • Go catch a movie
  • Get in on a girls night or moms night out activity
  • Relax at your local coffee shop with your favorite drink
  • Drop your kids off to drop-in childcare for a few stress free hours

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Drink Plenty Of Water

Follow the 8×8 rule and try to drink 8 8oz. glasses of water per day.   Tea is fine, to get some of your water intake in. Try to limit the amount of juice and sodas you take in each day.   I’m a huge sucker for Sonic’s Rt. 44 sized drinks, so I have to make sure to counter that with water.

Pray or Meditate

15 to 20 minutes a day can do you a LOT of good.  It only takes 1 week to form a habit so map out a time that works best for you.  If you’re not sure how to pray or meditate, here are some tips.

  • Find a quiet place like a kid-free room, closet, bathroom, car, your place of worship or otherwise peaceful place to be.
  • Use devotionals to keep you on track
  • Don’t worry about formalities, just be real, open and honest.
  • Think about problems you need help with and things you are grateful for. Focus your prayers on those.
  • Repeat affirmations to yourself
  • Repeat God’s promises to yourself

Make Sure You Get Plenty Of Adult Interaction Each Week

It’s easy to get caught up in the lives of our kids. But, let’s not overdo it. We need adult interaction and mental stimulation from people who have already, at the very least, graduated highschool (real talk). Here are a few ways you can make this happen.

  • Schedule get together’s with friends
  • Create your own happy hour event with other available moms
  • Join Meetup.com and discover some local groups based on your personal interests

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Founder, Editor-in-Chief of Women's Lifestyle Blog, Naturally Stellar | Beauty Contributor for Hype Hair Magazine | Freelance Writer and Content Creator| Candice is a passionate Nashville-based writer with a love for beauty, urban lifestyle, songwriting, travel, food and business. When she's not busy being Wonder Woman to her family, out exploring or catching up on her British dramas, you can find her sharing something interesting on her blog. Which more than likely she probably wrote at Noon, while eating a bowl of Captain Crunch.

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