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Normally I don’t write posts like this but today is just one of those days.

Being an entrepreneur has never been an easy task for me, as I’m sure it isn’t for most of us. It doesn’t matter what business venture type I may be working toward creating, developing or maintaining. Doesn’t matter what industry it’s in. Doesn’t matter what business model it is. Doesn’t matter if it’s Virtual or Brick & Mortar. Being a business owner, a business creator or a business-minded career person can really, really suck at times.

It’s definitely not for the faint of heart. Not for those that may want to get rich quick. Not at all for people who want to do things in their “spare” time or for people who just live for the Kudos after expressing that they are a business owner.

It’s not cute. Being an entrepreneur is a FULL TIME undertaking. There’s nothing posh or fabulous about working, what seems like, non-stop hours. There is nothing at all cool about working your butt off on something that hasn’t really paid out yet. No Really. Ever tried to pay your bills with your ideas?

I spend so much time and energy, pouring my life into trying to make my business plans work. I spend countless hours praying, brainstorming, planning, creating task lists, researching, networking, marketing, building an internet presence and too many other keywords to mention. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t do something to pursue my goals, and yet I still feel that all that time and energy hasn’t pushed me any more closer to achievement than it did yesterday. I know in the back of my mind that this way of thinking isn’t true. It’s a Jedi mind-trick. But there’s always a new goal or new plan of attack or at times a back to the drawing board movement. And it’s those time that make me wanna throw in the towel or punch someone in the face.  Those really suck!

I barely sleep at night and during the day I rarely eat a meal that I can even label as nutritious because my mind takes over my entire day & night. When I’m up, I’m moving and this is non-stop for me. To say that I am really trying to conquer the work-life balance is such an understatement. It’s something that I battle with daily.

One of the hardest things about being an entrepreneur is knowing that some of the most important people in your life will never truly know or understand the amount of time, sacrifice, passion and work you put into doing what you love. No one can ever understand your business like you do. They can’t understand your frustrations. So it becomes even harder to vent or to try to explain to people when, although they can see how visibly stressed you are,  some have Zero real understanding. Some may only understand your end goals. Others may kind of understand your pain, but not really. But in my mind, no one can truly understand what I go through day-to-day like another entrepreneur.

Image credit: Forbes.com

Image credit: Forbes.com

I wish I could say that I’m one of those lucky people who has a slew of money stashed, borrowed or an inheritance from a rich uncle and can hire people to do what’s needed. My idea of venture capitalism is putting away a few bucks a month just to pay for Business Cards or Web Hosting. So as a Woman with a family of her own and as a person that lives and breathes learning new things, I mostly end up doing tasks that I know I’m capable of so that I don’t have to pay someone else. I don’t have money to burn. For me, it seems idiotic to shell out cash for something that I already know how to do. Yet, that very thing that I try so hard to avoid, is most times that thing that holds me back from moving forward at a faster rate.

I’m slowly but surely learning now, that being an entrepreneur doesn’t mean, being an island. It’s crazy to me that I’m just now getting this, that I’m just now really understanding this, in real life. That to give up small pieces of my pie, to have someone else care for them, doesn’t mean I no longer have a pie. My whole pie is still there.  Except now it will be a little easier to manage & watch over.

So to all of my family and friends,  when you see me walking around crazy looking, unkempt, stressed, irritated or just plain tired.  If I haven’t called you in months or for some a year.  If I don’t answer when you call or RSVP to events.  You now know why. I’m still learning how to balance. I’m trying. My mind is occupied. I’m tired. I don’t feel like smiling or pretending that everything is ok.  I don’t have time to talk about the weather.  I’m thinking about the next days tasks or cleaning up food out of my carpet that dropped from my son’s dinner plate from the night before.   I’m a Mom first, A Business Woman next,  a Blogger and a Musician.  I think that’s more than enough hats for any one person to wear.

I didn’t write this to complain or to gather “Amens”.  I just accept that this is who I am.  I’m an Entrepreneur and Multi-Faceted Woman. Everything that I do is all a part of a hard days work. So to follow up on the question as to whether or not Work-Life Balance for Entrepreneurs is an Oxymoron. My answer? You’d have to be a Moron to not know the answer to that, after reading this article.  Until next time Stars.

 

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Founder, Editor-in-Chief of Women's Lifestyle Blog, Naturally Stellar | Beauty Contributor for Hype Hair Magazine | Freelance Writer and Content Creator| Candice is a passionate Nashville-based writer with a love for beauty, urban lifestyle, songwriting, travel, food and business. When she's not busy being Wonder Woman to her family, out exploring or catching up on her British dramas, you can find her sharing something interesting on her blog. Which more than likely she probably wrote at Noon, while eating a bowl of Captain Crunch.

7 Responses

  1. Mimi

    People whose minds don’t function this way never get it. I’ve come to grips with the fact that I will never have balance but that I will do the best that I can and when I need a break I will take it. I so feel you on this post. I have found getting around like minded people is so helpful. I can call and get a little encouragement or a few business tips and I keep it moving.

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    • Naturally Stellar

      My breakthrough moment has caused me to accept the crazy juggle as just the norm. You hit it right on the head, I just gotta keep it moving. Thanks for stopping by Mimi!

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  2. Kia's Fashion Confectionary

    I was just discussing this very issue with another. Some people will never get and it may be the people closest to you that do not. I have accepted the fact that some may not get it and be skeptical and actually be a “hater” about it. I knew it would be difficult and exhausting; but I underestimated the amount of networking blogging involved to. I just sift my priorities around as often as needed. I do not beat myself up anymore either if I don’t finish something on a deadline I set. I let it go and just move on. I am my own boss right?! What am I gonna fire myself?! LHH

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    • Candice S.

      Yup! No pink slips when you run your own LOL! It’s SO hard because both my hubby and I are entrepreneurs. Neither of us understands the others plight. You would think we should, but NOPE! Not Fully. Needless to say our home life is very “Unique” 😀

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  3. Neosha Gee

    This post is EVERYTHING to me. Much like staring at myself in the mirror. Many people will never realize how much time and energy goes into working for yourself. I don’t have the “luxury” of knowing that I’m expecting a check for a certain amount every two weeks because I’m not. I’ve lost and continue to lose sleep, forget to eat, and even put family on the back burner just to meet a goal within my business sometimes. I can definitely relate. As a designer, I enjoy what I do. When I got to a place where I knew I couldn’t do it alone, I hired interns. GREAT HELP! It truly does help you excel in other areas of your business.

    I applaud you for this post. You are surely not alone at all.

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    • Candice S.

      Thanks Neosha, that really makes me feel better. I kid you not. I really need to surround myself with more entrepreneurs because they’re the only ones that understand my pains & triumphs.

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